THE THREE WEEKS, June 25 – July 16 2013The Talmud (Tractate Ta’anit) states:
“Five calamities befell our forefathers on the 17th of Tammuz, and five on Tisha be’Av (the 9th of Av).
On the 17th of Tammuz the Tablets of Stone were broken (by Moshe Rabenu), the daily offering ceased (in the Temple), the walls of the City (of Jerusalem were breached, Apostomos burned the Torah Scroll and placed an idol in the Hekhal (Sanctuary).”
These 22 days from the 17th of Tammuz to Tisha be’Av are among the saddest on our calendar, and the Halakhot (laws) and the minhagim (customs) that we have adopted reflect this. On these “Days of Distress” we lessen our laughter and pleasures, for it is written that every generation that does not witness the rebuilding of the Beth Hamikdash (Temple), it is as if it were destroyed in its day.
The Laws of The Three Weeks
The Three Weeks (from 17 Tammuz to 9 Av).
1) No music – Listening to and playing music, and dancing is not permitted for all the three weeks. A Jewish musician who performs for non-Jews should not perform on these days either. However, if he would have nothing to eat, he is permitted to perform between the 18th and the 29th of Tammuz, but not after.
2) No shehehiyanu bracha (except on new fruits if unavailable any other time and only to be said on Shabbat).
The 9 Days (from Rosh Hodesh Av to 9 Av).
1) No weddings (This applies to the entire three weeks for Ashkenazim).
2) One who has a court case with a gentile should postpone it until after the 10th of Av.
3) Negotiations for, and acquisitions of items for joyous purposes, such as marriages, are postponed until after the 9th of Av. However, they are permitted if the items would not be available later, or if they would then be more costly.
4) No buying new appliances, furniture, houses, cars, etc.
5) No house painting or renovations unless necessary for immediate housing needs.
6) Sephardim do not partake of meat and wine from the night after Rosh Hodesh Av. But on Rosh Hodesh itself, meat and wine are consumed in honor of the special day. Ashkenazim abstain from Rosh Hodesh onward.
7) No pleasurable planting of flowers or trees, etc.
Shavua Shehal Bo (the week of Tisha be’Av, calculated by Sephardim from the Sunday preceeding it, up to Tisha be’Av; calculated by Ashkenazim from the First of Av up to Tisha be’Av.)
1) No haircuts or shaves.
2) No laundering; no wearing freshly laundered clothes; no fresh bed linen.
3) No hot showers.
4) No stitching or tailoring new clothes or new shoes.
5. No purchasing new clothes or shoes
6) No engagement parties, but getting engaged is allowed.
The fast of TISHA BE’AV lasts from Mon. July 15 at 8:27 p.m. until Tues. July16th at 8:59 p.m.
Five events occurred on Tisha be’Av:
1) It was decreed upon our forefathers that they should not enter the Land of Israel (because of the sin of the Ten Spies),
2) The First Temple was destroyed by the Babylonians
3) So too the Second by the Romans.
4) The city of Betar was captured by the Romans who ended the Bar Kochva revolt and murdered and enslaved hundreds of thousands.
5) Jerusalem was ploughed over by the Romans.
The five prohibitions on Yom Kippur: eating and drinking, bathing, anointing, wearing leather shoes, and marital relations are likewise prohibited on Tisha be’Av.
The seuda hamafseket (final meal) before the fast (if it is eaten after the middle of the day) may not consist of more than one cooked food. However, if it is usual to cook two foods together, such as rice and lentils. They are considered as one and are permitted.
One should sit on a low stool while eating this meal and through halachic midday on Tisha be’Av.
The fast should be observed by all those who are in good health.
People who do not need to fast:
- Pregnant and nursing women should try their best to observe this fast. In cases of complications or physical weakness or if the mother thinks the fast will affect her health or her baby’s health, she should follow her doctor’s recommendation. If during the fast she feels sick, especially if she is vomiting or having other signs of dehydration, she should break the fast and eat immediately. However, mild dizziness and nausea that can be coped with, by lying down on a couch or a bed, are considered normal.
- A woman who is within the first 30 days after giving birth is exempt from fasting.
- Minors: boys younger than 13 and girls before 12 are completely exempt from fasting. Unlike Yom Kippur, there is no need for children to fast for a few hours.
- People with a chronic disease like diabetes, or somebody running a high fever should not fast.
- Infirm and elderly people should consult with their doctor to make sure that the fast will not affect their health. If it will, they are exempt from fasting.
- 6. When one is allowed to eat for health reasons, only what is necessary for health is allowed.
Our custom follows the Shulchan Aruch that tallit and tefillin are not worn at Shaharit in the synagogue on Tisha be’Av, but if possible we should follow the opinion of “Ben Ish Hai”, to don them at home in the morning and read the Shema only (some include Kaddesh Lee), and then they are worn at mincha in the synagogue.
“Eikha” is read at night and again in the morning.
On Tisha be’Av it is not recommended to work. Working diverts the mind from feeling of grief. Refraining from work on Tisha be’Av, is optional, depending on one’s family tradition, and one’s financial and professional situation. I recommend that people not work the first half of the day.
On Tisha be’Av, Torah study is prohibited except for sad material such as the books of Iyov or Ekha, parts of Jeremiah etc., because studying Torah is considered a pleasurable activity.
We shouldn’t greet each other as usual, because we are mourning.
Ashkenazim recite a haftarah during the minha prayer of all the “Five Fast Days” and the portion read is “Dirshu”. Sephardim, on the other hand, do not read a haftarah on any of them, except for Tisha be’Av, at which time the portion “Shuvah” is read.
After arvit, there is a custom to wash one’s hands properly (as only the fingers were washed in the morning) and (when feasible) to wear leather shoes before reciting Birkath Halevanah, (blessing for the Moon) with a happy heart.
As we approach the saddest day of the Jewish calendar we must remember the beautiful story of the Talmud (Makkot 24b) which is a typical Jewish response to tragedy. Shortly after the destruction of our second temple, a group of rabbis went to visit Jerusalem, or what was left of it after Roman conquest. When they got to the temple mount and witnessed the destruction, they ripped their clothes in mourning. On getting closer they saw a fox coming out from the site of the holiest part of the Temple. This was too much for the rabbis. They all broke out crying except for Rabbi Akiva who was laughing. They were amazed – “Why are you laughing?” He answered them, “now that the prophecy of the Prophet Micha of destruction has been fulfilled, we may look forward to the prophecy of Zecharia that Jerusalem and the temple will be rebuilt!” speedily in our days, Amen. A person with a positive outlook always prevails.
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